Gamer Girls

Who cares if you’re a female or a male, right? It’s a moot topic nowadays when so many girls play that we just go unnoticed. It’s actually a topic I never really think about anymore, until I happened across this post on Big Bear Butt Blogger .

Now, I’m not a “serious gamer” and I never have been and most likely won’t be. I have dug into WoW with a serious enthusiasm, sometimes bothering Malfean to play more than he’d like to. I don’t know if it’s the game itself or a Pandora’s box it unlocked in me, but I really have embraced it. Prior to WoW, though, I didn’t play video games, but I did play an online version of the tabletop games of White Wolf. Vampire: the Masquerade, Werewolf: the Apocolypse, Mage: the Ascension. You name that dorky stuff, I did it. It was chat-based, with Storytellers to hold the reigns and game mechanics mostly followed through. It also had its share of skeezbags always on the lookout for a girl playing the game and ready to glom onto her with all of their greasy “charm”. It was annoying, yes, when all you wanted to do was play the game and all they wanted to do was get into your virtual-panties, but you also got used to it and became adept at turning them away. (We won’t mention that this game is how I met Malfean. His charm, thankfully, isn’t all that greasy.)

Understandably, then, when Malfean wanted me to try WoW out for the first time, I was apprehensive. He had jokingly told me that being a girl in the game could be profitable and that didn’t really allay my fears any. Once the game got hold of me, though, the thought came and went. I didn’t notice any real problems with boys or men pestering me, except for the somewhat annoying, though easily ignored, comment regarding my real-life gender behind my character. What do I care if they think I’m sporting extra jiggly bits?

I think, too, that I got really, really lucky in my guild. My guild has a large number of female players, usually wives or girlfriends of the male players, but some aren’t. Some are just single girls that like the game and like that our guild offers a very female-friendly area to play it in. Sometimes I think the estrogen in Vent actually gets too thick for the male players and you can hear them making choking noises as they starve for testosterone fueled conversation. Of course, it takes a special kind of woman to enjoy gaming and our ladies hold their own, dishing out scathing or ribald commentary when they feel the need and taking it themselves with aplomb. I have never felt uncomfortable or nervous around our players in Vent and, in fact, am probably one of the most talkative people on during raids.

Getting back to the BBBB topic at hand, I don’t know if the gamer girls (women! but that’s not as cutely alliterative) that came before me blazed a trail to open up the gaming world to women so that they could be free of male harrassment, or if things have remained entirely unchanged and I am just one lucky woman. Obviously this particular blog bears no title stating the gender of either author, or even alluding to our relationship status, but one of us is a woman and, I dare to assert, a gamer and I find the topic intriguing. I would be interested to hear about other women and their experiences. Are they still having problems with their male counterparts in gaming that would indicate that I, and those that claim gender is moot, are simply lucky or has the tide has turned?

Also, on a side note, being a girl in WoW totally didn’t turn out to be profitable. But I think that has something to do with my lack of willingness to strip naked and dance. The only time the rest of the players see me strip naked is when I’m preparing to do a death-jump of some kind. And then there’s just not much time to throw money at me. Darnit.

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  1. Pike said,

    August 28th, 2008 at 7:16 pm

    Indeed, I’m one of many females in my guild, our raids are like 50% (at least) female… so it has never been a big deal to me. I have still experienced sexism in the game but it is very much few and far between.

  2. Sumayah said,

    August 28th, 2008 at 11:35 pm

    I actually get a kick out of being a girl on vent. I don’t understand why three other females in guild won’t speak up! Granted it could be the fact that their worried their voice isn’t as cute as mine…. ;) The best thing is joining a pug and logging onto a different guild’s vent and saying hi. I love the reactions, it’s usually the semi-joking “hey… how are you?” suave voice deeping followed by me saying into vent “OMG! It’s a girl what do we do!?!?!?!?!” Which then is followed by laughter and cries of “everybody hide!” or emotes of “/runs in circles.”

    I do feel though that once people know you’re a girl, guy players do give you a certain leniency that they don’t really extend to their male counterparts. For instance, though my guild knows I’m married, I’m pet named “Hon” and “Babe” by several – and frankly I’ve never been the super feminist kind so if their pet naming me gives me a get out jail free card when I wipe the party then let me be your damsel in distress.

    However on the flip side of that, I think that if I had not proven myself as competent player, a worthwhile member of the guild, and showing a sense of humor I don’t think the guys would take the liberties they do. I know there were no pet names for one of the other female players (currently taking a break) unless you count “stupid b**ch who I wish would just shut the hell up” as a nickname. She could play her class however, which was her only saving grace.

    So all in all, yes there’s gonna be that guy who’s a perv and wants to see your pixelation but most guys seem fine with hearing a female voice in vent and most of the major serious raiding guilds have women in their ranks. I know for a fact Fusion does and I know for a fact Temporary Insanity does. Having girly parts has not hindered their ability to be hardcore raiders and those are guilds who don’t tolerate b*llsh*t from their members, they value skill over all else. I’ve also been a forum troll enough to see that on forums people don’t gender care – it was actually really sweet when there was an entire thread dedicated to a regular female poster on her baby’s birth. All the trolls (and blues) were waiting with anxious breath to hear that she and her new baby were doing well.

    So basically gaming is like life, if you’re a cool chick in real life then people will like and respect you for that, if you’re moody and b**chy in real life, well that’s going to translate too and you ma have a harder time finding a group.

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